I had a discussion with a friend recently about why guys and girls our age aren’t married. It was entertaining and cathartic — and long.
Do you have 12 hours to spare? No? I didn’t think so. If you ever want the complete list, I’ll compose a novel for your reading agony. For now, though, I wanted to post about a thought my friend shared and a video clip that addresses the problem he pointed out.
My friend believes that among the many stumbling blocks that crowd the road to matrimonial bliss is a rather large, Hollywood-sponsored boulder. Think Kathleen Kelly and Joe Fox. Mary Fiore and Steve Edison. Buttercup and Wesley.
Yes, friends, we’re talking about romantic comedies. Those chick flicks that we willing label as cheesy but secretly hope are based on real events. Plenty of girls fall into the chiseled arms of handsome strangers (who also just happen to be doctors) every day, right? And all boys respond to a woman’s every request with “As you wish,” don’t they?
While I like to pretend that my feet are too firmly planted on the ground to hope for a sappy, cinematic meet-cute, I think my friend was right. To a certain extent, the media we guzzle affects what we expect out of a man — and a marriage.
It’s true that pretty much every rom-com fills our female heads with visions of unattainable partnership perfection. I’m willing to admit it. But today, as I read an article about movie moments guaranteed to make you cry (you’ve been warned), I came across this clip from “Up.” And it was the perfect antidote to my warped visions of wedded bliss.
I think if I watch this nine-minute love story enough times, I’ll be able to undo years of sugar-coated silliness. If you’re married, I’m sure you can relate to some of this couples’ joys and heartbreaks. If you’re single, I think you’ll appreciate the reality check.
It’s a sweet, sad, meaningful adventure.